Barb King

Barb King

PK–8 Counselor
B.S. Ed, University of North Dakota
M.A., University of North Dakota
Lower School, Middle School

Barb King is the counselor to PK–8 students in the Lower and Middle School. She has been with Carolina Day since 1992. Barb came to CDS from her native state of North Dakota, and in addition to counseling, she has worked in higher education as adjunct faculty teaching psychology and sociology courses.

Get to know Barb King:

What do you like most about your job at CDS? “CDS is reasonably progressive, which allows me to put the majority of my energy into the area of prevention versus crisis intervention. I absolutely love the feel of “community” —that faculty and staff truly function on a team versus working in isolation. CDS families are highly involved, which makes parent education an integral part of my day-to-day professional life.” 

In your opinion, how does the CDS community inspire students to be courageous and curious, wonder about things that they don’t understand, try new things, and develop individual passions? “There is an undertone of “be yourself” that permeates this campus. Whether students are encouraged directly or indirectly, daring to be YOU and daring to be open to others being THEMSELVES sets up a positive atmosphere to step out of your comfort zone. In my role, I try to ask more questions to encourage students to generate their own ideas toward decision making, conflict resolution, etc. 

What books and authors that inspire you and your work at CDS? “Brene Brown (Gifts of Imperfection; Daring Greatly), Daniel Goleman (Emotional Intelligence), Barbara Fredrickson (Positivity) and John Gottman (Raising An Emotionally Healthy Child). There is a common thread found in all these books: The success and well-being of your life are largely dependent on your willingness to take personal responsibility for your choices, pay attention to your feelings and understand that you can choose what you want to do with those feelings. Another common thread: being authentic amidst societal influences.”

What is your favorite quote about education, mentorship, children, and/or learning? “Hard work trumps talent when talent doesn’t work hard.” “Love is greater than fear.” “When you change the way you look at things, the things you look at change.” 
How would you describe yourself and/or your approach to your job in 10 words or less? I am a person who lives by these words: Creating and maintaining healthy relationships requires intentionality and sincerity.”  
What personal passion brings balance to your life? The relationships I have with my husband, friends, and family.
Is there anything else we should know about you and your work? “I published a book in 2007, titled Who’s Ms. Sand Dollar? The Role of The School Counselor.”